This post is not the one I thought I was going to write. Strangely (or not) the one I was planning was not coming forth. I thought it was because I was still crawling out of my wintery cave and just not yet back into the groove. But I suspect it was because this post was waiting in the sidings for the other one to let it through. Or maybe it’s the potent power of this Aquarius New Moon.
In this last couple of weeks, I have been having a few ‘ahas’ on the notion of raising our frequency or vibration. I could get my head around the concept but hadn’t quite grasped how to inhabit it, i.e. what to specifically do to raise myself from a low frequency to a higher one? I got that negativity breeds more negativity and we attract what we focus on and all that. But what was going to get me from feeling resentful, frustrated or procrastinating to a feeling that was a higher vibe, like enthusiastic or focused?
If I’m teaching you to suck eggs with this and it is so obvious that you wonder what took me so long, then please bear with or feel free to jump ship here. But if you have wondered about this too, then hopefully my epiphany will resonate.
What shifted it for me? I was watching a free masterclass with Julie Ciardi on using Human Design and Gene Keys to guide your business and branding. I have been studying my Human Design and my hubby’s design since 2009, when I was introduced to it by a friend who was training to be a ‘guide’. Without a doubt it has helped hubby and I understand each other’s way of being in the world and is probably the reason we are still together and sane. The same friend also introduced us to the Gene Keys and while we have toyed with it over the years, it hadn’t resonated to quite the same extent until now.
Julie Ciardi had been a corporate bunny like my hubby. She had followed similar personal development paths, and while hubby had gone down the Tony Robbins route, she had trained with Bob Proctor. She mentioned in this masterclass that she didn’t get the frequency thing that Bob Proctor talked about, until she started studying the Gene Keys and then it all fell into place. It was her explanation of it that made it click for me.
I’m going to assume that you haven’t a clue what Human Design and Gene Keys are. In the resources below there are website links where you can get your free charts and find out more, including where these systems came from. Essentially, they are the same thing just viewed from different angles (like an MRI and an CT scan). You input your birth date, place and time, and the Bodygraph (Human Design) and the Hologenetic Profile (Gene Keys) give you a map of the potential of who you are and what role you are here to play in the theatre of life. Here are my two charts. Yes, there is a lot to it, and it is a lifetime of exploration.
There are two bits of info I will share:
In the HD Bodygraph there are coloured shapes and white shapes. The coloured shapes are the areas of innate potential, our natural wisdom, and we are less susceptible to outside influences here. The white shapes show us where we are likely to be conditioned by outside influences, and where our life lessons are, i.e. where we gain wisdom from experience.
The numbers in the shapes are called Gates. There are 64 of them and they also correspondence to the 64 Gene Keys. We have all of them in our chart as potential, but some are active for us and some aren’t. They may represent specific lessons to learn through experience if they are in a white shape and innate wisdom if they are in a coloured shape.
In every number (Gate), there is a shadow side, a gift and a wisdom. Let’s look at my Gene Keys to explain this bit – because in this is the answer to the query about frequency. In the white triangle on the right in my HD Bodygraph (representing the solar plexus) the number 49 is in a blue circle. In my Gene Keys you see this number on the right as my Evolution – my big life lesson if you like.
The white solar plexus triangle shows that this is an area where I am susceptible to the influence of others. For me this plays out as being empathic, I feel the feels of other people around me, and I often feel under pressure when those feels are not good to make things better for the other person. So, if my mum is all doom and gloom, I feel the energy or frequency of her gloom and a pressure to cheer her up. If hubby is having a bad day, I feel pressure to make his day better. BIG LESSON alert: they are not putting pressure on me; I am putting pressure on me.
Why am I pressurising myself? Because the ‘doom and gloom’ is a low frequency, which feels very uncomfortable for me. It could be that I feel far more uncomfortable with their feelings than they do! I try to relieve MY discomfort by trying to make THEM feel happier. BIG BUT: their happiness is not my responsibility. MY happiness is my responsibility. So, when I feel discomfort as a reaction to their feelings, it is actually a prompt to do something that raises my own energy. This could play out as doing something that makes me happy and cheers them up as well – like taking hubby or mum out for a coffee in a bookshop. Or it could be that I just have to take myself off to the shed to do some art and stay out of their emotional dramas.
The three frequencies of the Gene Key 49 are Reaction (low/shadow), Revolution (gift) and Rebirth (wisdom/high). It feels deeply rebellious to me to let my hubby or mother stew in their own juice and turn my attention to something else rather than go in there with them. And, of course, there is some discernment here – do they actually need help or am I just reacting to my own discomfort? Nine times out of ten, I’m reacting. Nine times out of ten, my best response is to check they are ok and then go do something that brings me joy, gives me a feeling of freedom and rebirths me into a happier person (which is all hubby and mum really care about).
Let’s look at my Life’s Work Gene Key/Gate 4: Intolerance (low/shadow), Understanding (gift), Forgiveness (wisdom/high). This Gate is in a coloured-in triangle (the Anja centre second from top) in my HD Bodygraph, which means I am more fixed in my ideas here and less influenced by others. The low frequency is intolerance – and I can be pretty intolerant at times. A very simple example: I do not put wooden items (such as spoons or wooden handled saucepans) in the dishwasher because the detergent strips all the oil or varnish off them. Hubby always forgets and puts them in the dishwasher anyway. It used to really irk me! Much eye rolling would ensue. Now, I have managed to move myself to the higher frequency of understanding that hubby is thinking far greater thoughts than the effect of dishwasher tablets on a wooden spoon. I have even managed to move myself into forgiveness – it’s not like the spoons are irreplaceable heirlooms.
Another lesson here, of course, is to be more tolerant of myself, to not berate myself when I don’t live up to my own expectations (frequently). To cut myself some slack, be more understanding and forgive myself for not being all that I think I should be. Perhaps even set my expectations of myself a little differently so I have less to be intolerant about!
Any of this resonating?
It isn’t necessary to know your own Human Design or Gene Keys to be aware of your own frequencies. All it takes is becoming more aware of your energies and feelings and to check in with yourself: what is this feeling, where is it in my body, what’s causing it, what do I need right now, how could this be different?
I have noticed that when I am in a low frequency state, there is usually a lot of mind chatter and ‘solutions’ going on, which leads to anxiety or resentment. And I lose connection with my body and its wisdom. When I move myself to a higher frequency, I feel more grounded in my body. I experience it as a quiet knowing, strength, calm, softness and freedom. Higher frequencies don’t have to feel excited or bouncy, it is more a feeling of being wholly comfortable in your skin – whatever that feels like for you. And the lower frequency is not a bad thing, it can provide the energy or impetus for change.
I’ve been working on my own personal development since I was in my 30s and I’m now 58. Sometimes I wonder how something so obvious could only just have dawned on me. I am learning to be more tolerant of the idea that the lesson appears when you are ready for it, and it isn’t obvious at all until that point. Every day really is a school day.
If any of this resonates or if you have questions, please do leave a comment. I’ll do my best to answer and to guide you to the best resources for you.
Until next time…
Websites to check out:
My friend Uma is a Human Design guide specialising in guiding women who are grieving a deep loss. Her blog is a mine of easy-to-understand information about Human Design and how it has helped her to live her designed life. I have invited Uma to write a guest post about her book Losing Amma, Finding Home: A Memoir About Love, Loss and Life’s Detours for our Bookshelf this month. I’m also recording a podcast with her for later in February on the topic of grief as a companion and teacher.
The International Human Design School
Your free chart https://www.ihdschool.com/chart-reports
Gene Keys
Using Human Design and Gene Keys for business and branding
Hi Tina, I dabbled in Human Design a few years ago - had completely forgotten till you mentioned it. It was intriguing and thought-provoking. Might take another look!
Thanks Tina, I really resonated with you as empath being more discomfitted by others' downs than they maybe were themselves. In the past that has led me to overwhelm and paralysis rather than jollying, but I can now hold my higher vibe state which seems to jolly without me trying!